Try a new bedroom move

If you were to eat a grilled chicken salad every night, it would get boring pretty quickly... but that doesn't mean that chicken isn't your favourite food, it just means you might like Chicken Carbonara or Chicken burgers now and again. The same goes for sex positions - we all have our favourites, but sometimes the position which we know will get us to orgasm the fastest can quash our adventurist attitude towards sex. If you rotate from two or three positions (or less!) it's time to find something new to tickle your fancy. The best place to start is the tried and true ancient Indian Kama Sutra. Packed with positions of varying difficulties, this lovemaking gospel is a must-have beside every bed - and you won't have to travel to the depths of India or learn how to read Sanskrit to read it. Check out your local bookstore for a copy of it.

Change the location

Remember when you were young and you had to get your nookie behind the bike shed or on the back seat of a car - well revisiting that isn't such a bad idea. The problem is that sometimes as soon as our head hits the pillow we start dozing off... but sleep is hardly conducive to an active sex life. If the bedroom is your usual place of action, when was the last time you made love somewhere different? To spice things up, perhaps surprise your lover by joining him in the shower, or telling him you'll set the table for dinner and then sprawling across it in your birthday suit. Some people get a real kick out of outdoors sex and New Zealand certainly has an abundance of idyllic forests and beaches where it's not uncommon to be completely alone. If you're going to try outdoors sex, be sure to pack a blanket to lie on and a blanket for privacy. It'll certainly spice up your next picnic.

Toybox

Most of us love to shop, so why not get some retail therapy from your local sex store to revive a flagging sex drive. While your partner may initially be slightly taken aback by your new vibrating phallus, more often than not, once they see the pleasure you get from it they are very keen to incorporate it into lovemaking sessions - after all, it probably makes their job a little easier! Broach the subject with your partner gently and try saying something along the lines of, 'You know I'm quite keen to try this, shall we do some shopping?' When it comes to shopping, the rows and rows of multi-coloured wotsits with their multi-functions can be a little daunting... Don't be shy, ask the staff for help - or if you feel more comfortable check out www.theden.co.nz, www.dvice.co.nz or www.lovingtouch.co.nz to make your purchases in the privacy of your own home. The Doc Johnson ivibe Rabbit is touted as one of the ultimate vibration experiences and is often on discount at your favourite online store www.amazon.com

Lubricants and massage oils can also provide lots of fun in the bedroom. Kama Sutra has a wonderful range of massage oils / lubricants and warming oils that taste and smell divine. Check out www.kamasutra.com

Use your imagination... you don't even have to go shopping - you might like to try using an old pair of hosiery to tie your partner up in some light bondage, or blindfold him with a silky scarf to heighten sensation. Even candles and music can add atmosphere and a sense of occasion to an otherwise staid love-life.

Change the time of day

Just as your place of love-making can become a habit, so can the time of day you make love. If you always make love at night, try setting the alarm a little earlier and dive under the sheets to wake your partner up. If the evening is your only chance to get a quickie, make a night of it by going for a romantic date with your partner and letting the evening roll on from there. Find a time of day when your partner and you both feel relaxed - nothing detracts from a sex session like feeling exhausted or stressing about your day at work.

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