Even the best of relationships will eventually settle into a comfortable routine, leaving behind the intense feelings that were present at the beginning. This isn't a bad thing, for those feelings have mellowed into a kind of love that is even better, one that comes with satisfying familiarity. But it's not unusual to wish for a few of those first exciting moments again...

These first moments in a relationship are very special, and we think back upon them with great sentimentality. Even the best of relationships will eventually settle into a comfortable routine, leaving behind the intense feelings that were present at the beginning. This isn't a bad thing, for those feelings have mellowed into a kind of love that is even better, one that comes with satisfying familiarity. But it's not unusual to wish for a few of those first exciting moments again.

It can be rewarding to revisit that time in your relationship and bring back some of the intense feelings you once felt. Consider going on your 'first' date again. Many couples like to do this when an anniversary comes around. Think back in your imagination, and place yourself on that first date. Where did you dine? What did you eat? What did you wear? What did you say, and how did you say it? Did he give you flowers? Don't just go through the emotions. Revisit the feelings. How did you feel when he made the date? Did you already like him or did that come later?

One thing that often happens after a couple has been together for a long time is that they begin to take each other for granted. It's good to take time to remember all the reasons you fell in love with that person in the first place, when everything he said and did was new and oh so important. What attributes did this person have that really struck you as something you wanted in a lifetime partner? Don't just admire him in your mind - find a way to let him know how much you love these things in him. Leave warm, loving notes for him in his briefcase, his pants pocket, or his dresser drawer. Take the time to rediscover the emotions he sparked in your heart and let your heart do the speaking. Tell him over a glass of champagne or even a glass of apple juice in the morning what he means to you and what you love about him.

Rediscover the magic in the bedroom. There is no feeling greater than what we experience when we first make love with that one special person we intend to spend the rest of our lives with. The awareness of the other, the brand-new-ness and the thrill are all still there, just under the surface. The wonder of knowing that he feels the same way in return is magical. Allow yourself to experience those feelings and sensations that were once so new. Lock the world outside your door, turn off cell phones, unplug landlines, and disconnect from the internet. Spend a night, or a weekend, alone together with no hurries and no worries. Make love, talk, laugh, and cook special meals. Focus entirely on each other, the way you did in the past.

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