Single women are generally very busy women. They have many responsibilities resting on their shoulders, both on the job and beyond. Because they are single there is no sharing of chores and errands, these must be done alone. It’s difficult for singles to find time for socialising, but it’s necessary for emotional health...

Making the effort

How easily a single woman falls into isolation simply because she is too tired at the end of her day to try to find social outlets.  Women need friendships to ease the loneliness of singlehood. Friendship can be elusive, but because it is, there is even more reason to seek it.

It’s easy to say everyone needs friendships, but when you are single it’s hard to find these friends. Work hours take up so much of the day, and there are limited venues that attract other women one’s own age or with similar interests.  It takes a lot of effort to get out into the world and make friends, but it’s worth it.

Look for a singles group in the community. Do your homework and determine if the membership roster represents people with whom you have things in common. Singles groups are not all about finding dates – they are also about friendship and fellowship with others who are just as lonely or isolated.

Try to find time to volunteer in the community on projects that mean something to you.  You will inevitably meet people who share your interests.  Strike up conversations with others and get to know them. When you feel comfortable enough to do so, suggest meeting for coffee somewhere. Often, groups splinter off and do fun things together, like eating out or going to events together.  Create a high profile by being sincerely friendly to everyone.

If you have a hobby that has been neglected, take it up again and find a group of others who enjoy the same hobby.  Check out your local community college for fun classes of all sorts if you don’t already have a hobby. You might discover a love for origami, or for creating bonsai plants, or painting landscapes.  Just by attending meetings or classes you will automatically have at least one thing in common with the others!

Friends come in all ages. While it’s good to seek friends in your own age group, don’t restrict yourself to friends of your sex and age. There are so many others out there who have much to bring to our lives. Sometimes they bring wisdom, sometimes a wonderful sense of humour.  You may find others who can teach you things or those whom you can teach.  If you put in the time and effort the odds are very good that you will find friends who will fill your life with warmth and camaraderie.

Article by Rachel Goodchild

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