Your first date was amazing and you feel as though you’ve known him for years not hours… This one’s a keeper. He's everything you could have asked for in a man; funny, intelligent, charming, employed  and toe curlingly good looking, with piercing eyes that make every hair on your body stand to attention. 

The air is electric as he gently brushes his lips against yours in a goodnight kiss that sends a hot rush of blood to your face and a shiver down your spine. It's all you can do to maintain your composure as the image of him naked races through your mind. Your heart is pounding like a herd of wild horses and the mere smell of him leaves you feeling weak and gasping for air.

Every inch of your body is telling you to go for it, but what will happen to your potential relationship if you do? Should you throw all caution to the wind for a night of unbridled passion or should you listen to what your mum told you and hold out and wait?

When it comes to sex everyone’s different and there’s no right or wrong time, only the time that feels right for you. If the thought of doing the horizontal dance so soon leaves you feeling guilty or riddled with fear, then wait.  49% of guys said they wouldn’t have sex on the first date (that’s not to say that they never have), so if he’s any kind of man he’ll respect your decision and the build up of sexual tension is sure to make the first time even more explosive.

Does sex on the first date mean kissing any chance of a long term relationship goodbye?

Contrary to what most of us have been told, guys don’t really expect us to be virgins until our wedding night. In fact, 58% of men said that sexual experience mattered with
75% saying they’d still see a girl as marriage potential if she’d slept with him on the first date. Let’s face it, when was the last time you heard a guy say ‘I’ve never done this before,’ or ‘I don’t usually do this,’ after having sex on the first date? The truth is that research shows we make decisions about what type of relationship we might like with someone (casual fling or potential partner) after only a few minutes. So, chances are they’d already made a decision about their potential future with you long before you found yourself naked in their arms!

What turns guys on in the bedroom?

As part of the research for our book How to get the man you want / How to get the woman you want we asked men to share their top sexual turn-ons and turn-offs.

Here’s how to turn a guy on in the bedroom;

1.    arouse him visually;
2.    wear sexy lingerie;
3.    enjoy giving oral sex;
4.    enjoy receiving oral sex;
5.    communicate and ask him for what you want in bed;
6.    initiate sex;
7.    be spontaneous and playful;
8.    be adventures and willing to try new things, including different positions;
9.    show your appreciation and that you’re having a great time; and
10.    show him that you love sex and want it regularly.

Hot tip about body image

There’s nothing like standing stark naked in front of someone you barely know to leave you feeling insecure and exposed. What if your cellulite and flabby stomach doesn’t live up to expectations? Or worse still, what if you see a glimpse of disappointment on his face?

If the thought of him seeing your naked body sends running for the sanctuary of the covers, turning off the light and wishing you’d stuck to that no fat diet, keep this in mind. When it comes to body image we women really are our worst enemies and guys aren’t necessarily looking for a six foot tall Amazonian goddess without so much as a ripple of fat.  When it comes to what men look for in women, it really is the whole package that counts. 

76% of men saying that they were more than happy with average sized breasts and 63% of men preferring curves over the prepubescent figure most women strive for with the other 37% saying they didn’t mind either way.

What turns men on in the bedroom is confidence. 94% of men get turned on by their lover stripping for them, so rather than hiding your body, flaunt it! Wear something that makes you look and feel sexy, pull your shoulders back, stick your chest out and gently caress yourself, taking him on a visual journey of your body.