Ideally you will load up more than one photo. Showing a range of photographs builds the viewer's confidence, gives you a chance to show a bit of your personality and of course your natural good looks! Choose photos that flatter you. It is perhaps not a good idea to have a shot of you as a bridesmaid- and certainly not as a bride. Nothing scares off a man like a woman in a wedding dress, unless they are just about to get married to them. It might sound like a simple thought, but you would be amazed how many women use a wedding photo because it "shows them in just the right light"

The photos need to be up to date. If you last took a photo of yourself fifteen years ago when you were thirty kilograms lighter and had no grey hair you might need to consider getting some new ones taken to load up. Remember to smile and look happy. Looking angry or bored is a complete turn off to your prospective suitor.

Your profile

Before you write your profile take some time to read everyone else's. You will need to join up to read them, but call it market research. Most online dating sites let you have a trial period before charging your credit card. Read the men's ones first and think about which men you seem to be more interested in. What do they say in their profiles? It is all very well and good to make it a profile other women like, but you are trying to attract the man of your dreams so fit it to what they will like. Once you have read those, read your competition's profiles to see what they say. Take notes of any phrases or comments you like that fits your own personality to use yourself.

Whatever you say- make sure it is honest. Instead of stating you dislike something, just don't talk about it at all. For instance, if you really do not enjoy watching rugby, just leave it out of your profile. Be honest when it comes to topics such as whether you want children, what your political outlook is and how serious you are. These things are important filtering tools for both you and your prospective dates.

If you are not a natural writer, take some notes or write it in a word document before cutting and pasting it into your profile. Then you can change things around at your own leisure. It is a good way to reduce the spelling mistakes too!

When it comes to writing your profile, keep it positive. No one wants to know you have been hurt, crushed and broken by your ex husband and last two boyfriends. Hang-ups are a complete turn off. If you are still feeling hurt and angry, perhaps you are not quite ready to start dating again and should leave it a little longer.

Internet dating is a great deal of fun as long as you approach it with a fair amount of humour and take it as a chance to show off your best traits. Take a bit of time and you will have plenty of men to choose from within days!

by Rachel Goodchild

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