So where do you go?

Lunch is always a good idea for a first date - it's a more informal time of day than dinner, so if you do want a quick escape you won't have to suffer for too long. And you shouldn't need to worry about dim lights and romantic music making your date think he's coming back to your place for a 'coffee' if you can't stand him! Of course you can keep the afternoon free if you want to move on and do something else.

Preparation
Makeup - Check
Great outfit - Check
Hair styled - Check
Newspaper... Well, it might sound odd, but if you are one of those people that feels uncomfortable during silences, it can put your mind at ease to suss out what's going on in the world so you have some interesting topics to talk about.

Talk Talk Talk
You don't have to be an expert on politics or have a university degree to be a good conversationalist. Just smile, relax and talk. Talk about the menu, talk about what sort of wine you might like with the meal. Once you start the flow of conversation you'll find it easy to talk about more interesting topics like hobbies, travelling, work, film, music...

Listen
Just as important as talking is listening and asking questions. Show you are interested in your date by asking them about themselves, their career, where they live, and listen to their answers. Nobody wants to sit through a date where they can't get a word in edge-ways.

Common Interests
If the date is going well and you would like to see the person again, you can simply say 'I've really enjoyed lunch, would you be keen to do dinner next week?' Or if you prefer a more roundabout way of approaching the second date topic, you can always pick up on a common interest, such as a film you both want to see or a passion for golf and suggest the two of you meet in a week for a film or a round of golf.

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