All relationships start with a simple conversation, unfortunately, for some that is harder to do then it should be. Learn how to overcome conversation fumbles and score a touchdown in conversational style. 

Starting a conversation with anyone can be a difficult task for some. Sparking a conversation with a guy we are crushing on can be downright impossible. It doesn't have to be though. There are some great tips and tricks to starting conversations that can make a conversation even with the most handsome guy a breeze.

So how can we start that stressful conversation, without breaking a sweat and choking on our own words?

Stop the negative self talk
The first step comes before we even approach them. The reason most of us find it so difficult to approach others is due to our own insecurities about ourselves like “he won't like me” “he's out of my league” “I’m having a bad hair day” and any number of negative thoughts. Remember they are human just like us, they have their own problems and weaknesses. Think positive. We've approached other people and started conversations before, we can do it again.

Forget the cheesy lines and pickups. A simple start with “Hello, my name is” and an extended hand can do wonders compared to pick up lines. Offer a compliment, but don't make it something we are truly complimenting saying we love his hair when we think it is horrible is not a good start. We can even start with asking where they got an interesting piece of clothing or hairstyle.

Think about something that makes you really truly happy. Allow this emotion to carry through you. Sometimes it is not the words we speak, but the vibes we give off that makes a conversation easier to flow with. When both are at ease, conversation flows naturally and eloquently, making for a much smoother first meeting. And a better chance at a second or third meeting.

The most important part of starting a conversation is to use open ended questions. Questions that can be answered with a simple ‘yes’ and ‘no’ should be avoided. After all, these questions are answered and leave nowhere to go. An open ended question means an actual answer with detail is required. It is much easier to build upon open ended questions to get a conversation rolling.

Once we understand that the guys we adore are just human and we reframe our minds and realise that everything looks better in a positive light, we will find that we can approach anyone and actually feel like we are worthy of doing it.

All relationships start with the first conversation, so would you rather start a relationship or spend forever wondering what could have been? After all, what do we have to lose except a few moments of time? Yet we have everything to gain and worse case scenario we can always learn what not to do next time.

Article by Rachel Goodchild

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